Anxiety
Most people don’t think of people-pleasers, perfectionists, and goal-oriented people as managing anxiety. Maybe you don’t talk about the cycle of anxiety and accompanying overwhelm that is weighing you down because everyone says you are doing so well! My clients tend to struggle with people-pleasing and helping others before themselves. They are often caught in a cycle of perfectionism, achievement, and self-doubt.
Do you see yourself below?
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Perfectionism
Do you feel like you’ve worked so hard to get somewhere but it’s never enough? Perfectionism can feel like a hike that never reaches the top. It can be exhausting.
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People- Pleasing
Sometimes The Helper needs help. Lots of times people with high anxiety are care-takers and people who want to serve others. Often times anxiety takes the form of people-pleasing or codependency, which means your own needs don’t get met.
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High Achievement
You’re someone who is goal-oriented and you like to push yourself. Maybe you feel burnt out by all the pressure put on you—by yourself and others? Highly achieving people can harbor lots of anxiety, which can contribute to depression.